Temptation. Help.


This is the environment I am in.

My stepdad leaves fresh donuts by the coffee pot.

My mom dumps out cupcakes on the counter.

They both buy chips, cookies and candy.

They eat out every other night.

They make nightly trips to Dairy Queen.

I have said no and no, thank you. I’ve had this discussion with them ad nauseam. They have no intention of changing their ways.

I’ve put the junk food in a plastic box and put a sign that said, “Not for Melisa.”

I try to stay away but having all this in sight is hard.  I guess there is nothing to be done and this is my complaint. And, you see what I am dealing with. If you have any suggestions, I welcome it.

For me, I am working on it ~ Conquering this house made of cake and confectionery. My mom laughed when I told her I felt like Hansel and Gretel being fattened up and surrounded by sweets that I can’t touch.

Life’s A Gift


One of my facebook pages popped up with “What’s inspiring you lately?”

This inspired me to tell you about my inspiration and how I motivate myself.

We need this. We can get lost in the negativity of this world if we aren’t careful. I grasp at everything positive. I am forever one of those dorks that loves a good motivational phrase.

It’s important to keep your thoughts positive. 

Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” I also like another one of his phrases, “Failure is simply an opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” 

I am guilty of focusing on my past difficulties and the stuff I could not change. At first, I was trying to change things but I was only spinning my wheels. Then, I was consumed with WHY?!? WHY?!?! thinking.  This went on for a long time.  I did not want to do anything, let alone change my thoughts.  I struggled to nurture any positive thinking. I could not imagine, let alone have the energy, to start over again.  It was so very disheartening.

Literally, I am starting over again from the same place I was at 16 (but as Henry Ford said, “More intelligently.” Regardless, it is so hard to work up the ambition to rebuild 15 years of hard work.  My therapist told me I built it once, I could build it again. Oh, but I couldn’t imagine. How heartbreaking.  Round and round I went with this negative thinking.

Thankfully, I pulled myself out of that slump and am now looking forward to my future. I am focusing again on how I want my future to be. I am dreaming again. And, I know dreams really do come true. In order to come to this new positive place, I had to let go of the past like a Chinese paper sky lantern.  I now think, “Been there. Done that. Now, let’s do something NEW!”

There is no limitation on dreams.  If you can think it, it’s possible.  

Like I said, I am a huge fan of inspirational magnets and pictures.  I am the girl that will put a sticky note on the mirror as a note to myself; “You rock!”; “You can do this!” and “Go forth bravely!”

I’ve take every lucky charm from every culture I can get my hands on, put them all together and display them on a hanging decorate flower..

I framed one of my favorite sayings:

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about Creating Yourself.” Now, this is displayed prominently at my makeup station.

My latest motivational encouragement was taking my miscellaneous magazine clippings to create a dream board with the title “DREAM BIG.” I picked up a thick pink poster board and pink & black ribbon from the hobby store.  I made a boarder of the pink ribbon and took some black ribbon to fashion as a hanger. Then, I just went to town Mod Podge’ing the magazine clippings on it. Lastly, I finished it off with some stickers. Now, I have this hanging to inspire me. I know I will keep adding things on top of things as I find pictures, magazine clippings, stickers and sayings I can write on there.

I took one of my old dresses that I wore to a wedding out and hung on my window curtain rod to remind me I was a lot smaller at one point and can be so again.

Another project of mine was displaying my running medals. I took a wooden hook rack and made a hanger. I put stickers on it that say, “Don’t be afraid of failing”; “Be afraid of not trying.” That is hanging above my dream board as a reminder that I have done really awesome things, like run the Disney marathon. 26.2 miles.    

My final inspirational idea is two jars. One I decorated with Mod Podge of things I would like and I am going to put a penny in every time I work out. I’ll trade the pennies for dollars when the jar is full and buy myself something snazzy.  The second jar is for Paris. I am going to put all my money that I earn from my writing in a jar for my Paris trip.

That’s my positive thinking and future but we can’t forget living well today.  

Iyanla, Fix My Life! puts it best, “To pump some life and excitement into your future possibilities, you need to be joyful, peaceful, and grateful for what you have and what you’re doing right now.”

In comes music! Music is such a big part of my life. It is how I bring joy into my life. I love to put on Pandora and just dance and bounce around while I’m doing something. I’ve been known to belt out a line or two.

Currently, I am obsessed with “Best Day of My Life” by American Authors.



To bring peace into your life, I would suggest a yoga class. I’m heading to the YMCA today. I need it. It’s one hour of quiet. It’s an hour of loosening your muscles and stretching.

The grateful part just comes. I am so very grateful to be alive. Sometimes, we just focus on the bad things in our life but simply to be alive is a gift.

In the words of Jack Dawson on Titanic, “I got everything I need right here with me. I got air in my lungs, a few blank sheets of paper. I mean, I love waking up in the morning not knowing what’s gonna happen or, who I’m gonna meet, where I’m gonna wind up. Just the other night I was sleeping under a bridge and now here I am on the grandest ship in the world having champagne with you fine people. I figure life’s a gift and I don’t intend on wasting it. You don’t know what hand you’re gonna get dealt next. You learn to take life as it comes at you… to make each day count.”

“I’m king of the world!”